When it comes to healthy habits (e.g. being active and eating well) we know what we should do. DOING is the hard part We’ve all made bold resolutions in a surge of motivation.  But then, we don’t keep them.  Why not? What stops us from taking action, is the fuzzy monster in our mind.  Fuzzy, because we don’t see it clearly, and it looks a lot bigger than it is. When we build up this “fuzzy monster” it becomes easier to rationalize and justify poor decisions.  Essentially, we build it up to the point where we tell ourselves: “it’s just too hard” Sadly, when…

“Growth Hacking” … “Diet-Hacking” … “Bio-Hacking” … “Life-hacking” … “Hack-Hacking” Since the early 2000’s, the concept of “hacking” every aspect of our life has led to a whole industry from supplements, to books, touting increased productivity, wealth and everything in between. Buy this supplement, follow this guru, do this one trick What sounds like a good idea, rarely is, and I’ll explain why Hacking indicates seeking a shortcut … A way around the “work” – Let me give you a biological example.10 year old Jonny wants to “hack” his growth. So doctors start administering growth hormone, along with testosterone. Now…

When someone says to me: “I want to change, but I’m just lazy and unmotivated” … I tell them I don’t believe them. What I really mean is, I don’t believe that laziness and lack of motivation is the REAL reason, someone isn’t changing. Let’s be honest, NOT changing, means staying comfortable. Staying in familiar routine, and making conflict with others in our life less likely. Change is hard. It’s uncomfortable, and involves loss, and tradeoffs. There’s plenty of “good” reasons not to change. Of course, there’s lots of really good reasons TO change, such as: better health, more energy,…

“I’d like to ____, but I’m just not ready” We tell ourselves these stories to comfort ourselves when we know we’re acting against our best interests. This usually happens for one of two reasons: 1. You want a result, but, you think that, in order to achieve that result, 120% adherence (along with misery and deprivation) is required, and anything less than perfection is failure. Because you (rightly) know, that 120% adherence is impossible, you create a narrative in your head that “one day, when the magic ‘readiness’ strikes, I’ll definitely do that” … and that story soothes the discomfort…