Being told to “calm down” or “just breathe” can be absolutely infuriating and make the situation worse.  This is because it completely invalidates what you’re feeling right now, when in fact, your feelings are perfectly valid (even though your thoughts might not be rational). Often, calming down isn’t the best option right away. Maybe you’ve just had a stressful encounter with a co-worker, and you’ve built up some nervous energy.  Maybe now you want to scream and punch things.  You’re not a bad person, you just need an outlet for all that pent up stressful energy.  What can you do,…