Would you help a friend become an alcoholic?
If my friend had a hard day, and I sat down to have a glass of wine together and talk, listen and share, I’d be a good friend.
But, if every time my friend had a hard day, I handed them a glass of wine, I’d be helping them become an alcoholic.
Sometimes we mistake a short term act of kindness for a viable long-term strategy, when in fact, as a repeated act, it becomes highly destructive.
What if that friend was myself, and instead of wine, it was pizza, cookies and chocolate?
When I was using (and abusing) food as a coping mechanism, there was no joy in eating it. It was only temporarily escaping suffering, and it NEVER solved my problems.
In fact, it compounded them.
This summer, I shared some of the delicious foods I enjoyed on my cross Canada vacation.
And, I always get a little smile when someone says “Wait, but aren’t you a nutrition coach?”
The insinuation here is that, as a nutrition professional, my diet should solely comprise of “clean” and “good” foods.
I chuckle and say, “Do you think that just because I lost a bunch of weight that food stopped being delicious?”
If you could go back a few years in time, and see how I used to 12 donuts, instead of 1. An entire pizza, instead of a slice. A triple bacon cheeseburger, with an extra order of fries, instead of a single burger and less than half of my fries …
The fact that I can sit down and enjoy an indulgent meal and leave a third of my meal behind, without even feeling a twinge of pain and regret?
This is a victory of monumental Everest proportions.
It used to cause my chest to get tight, and a knot in my stomach, to see food go uneaten.
I would feel a panicky sense of urgency and an overwhelming compulsion to grab that food and eat it.
I would literally say “If it’s going to waste, it might as well be my waist”.
So, these days, I could pretend that I eat a “perfect” diet. But, that’d make me a liar.
Most of my meals are relatively unexciting, and follow a pretty basic formula. Half a plate of veggies, a serving of protein and a serving of quality carbs.
But, having a healthy relationship with food, and being at peace with eating also means that I can responsibly enjoy amazing food, without feeling compelled to binge and eat until I’m sick.
So, if your relationship with food is hurtful and abusive, and eating makes you feel guilty, ashamed or out of control?
If you can’t sit down and truly ENJOY a meal without feeling worried or stressed about how it will “ruin” your goals?
Let’s have a chat. I know this is a sensitive topic for many people. That’s ok, just send me a private message saying “I’d love to be at peace with food”, and we’ll set up a meaningful conversation.
There’s no judgement here, only compassion. I’m a formerly morbidly obese binge eater, I know the pain, shame and struggle.
But, I also know how to leave that struggle behind. And, in less than 20 minutes, I could show you the same.
Recently, someone messaged me to say that a couple weeks after our chat, they were down 5lbs, getting active and excited about the new path they’re on ❤️
That’s from 1 conversation! 🔥. How’d you like to have a conversation that could change your life?
It’ll probably be the most relaxed conversation you’ve ever had about weight, food, dieting and leaving that all behind.
If you’d like to have a chat about a different future, where you’re never worried about going on a diet again? Send me a quick message “I’d love to be at peace with food” and we’ll make it happen 🙌