I’m so thankful that diets failed me. I’m so thankful that every time I tried to punish myself into being healthy, that it failed.
I struggled for so long thinking that I was the failure, when in fact my body was trying to teach me a lesson.
You cannot hate your way into health. It is impossible.
And I’m filled with such deep gratitude, because it meant that I had to learn to love myself and love my body.
My body was crying out for love, appreciation and gratitude, and I was trying to punish it into submission, to try and force it to look a certain way, thinking that if it did, that I’d finally be happy.
When my old coach first talked to me about loving myself, I rejected it.
I put up a brick wall. I was angry at him for even suggesting it. What, did he think I was some kind of wimp?
The idea of loving myself went against deeply held beliefs I had about masculinity.
I thought that loving myself would make me weak. As a man, I even felt shame for even contemplating the idea of loving myself.
And it’s so ironic, because love is the most powerful force in the universe.
Imagine thinking that you could fight the most powerful force in the universe and win …
You will lose every time. And you can be so deeply thankful for that. Because that is teaching you something.
A diet is you trying to fight yourself. It is you trying to punish your way into health.
You are not a failure. You are so powerful that attempts to impose arbitrary rules fail, because you are wired for autonomy and freedom.
You do not need to suffer to get healthy, you need to heal.
Could you ever imagine hating your way into a beautiful friendship?
No.
When you’re tired and exhausted from trying to fight your way into health …
When you’re tired of crying because nothing works, and you just want to be at peace with yourself and with food …
When you’re ready to get started on a transformation that is more powerful that you imagined possible?
I’ll be here. You just let me know ❤️🙏