“I know what to do, I just can’t seem to do it” Yep. If lack of knowledge was the problem, everyone with a smartphone and an internet connection would have abs, a mansion and a crazy happy life. We know what we should do. DOING is the hard part We’ve all made bold resolutions in a surge of motivation. But then, we don’t keep them. Why not? Is it because we suck? Nope. I talk to so many people who feel disappointed in themselves. Why? Because they KNOW they’re capable of doing more and doing better. So what’s holding them…

At some point, we’ve all wished for a flawless body … smooth, toned skin, defined muscles, washboard abs. In the 80’s it was Jane Fonda’s buns of steel (“Intense Target Toning!”) More recently, think Scarlett Johansson or Chris Hemsworth in the Avengers … Whoever it is, we’ve developed an idea of what a perfect body would look like, and modern media has certainly played a role in influencing that. But, underneath that, we’ve also developed an idea of what this perfect body must FEEL like too. We imagine that with the perfect body, we’d BOUND out of bed, bright and…

Popular self-help advice goes something like: “Look at yourself in the mirror and say ‘I Love You’ …” multiple times a day. While that sounds good in theory, there’s a huge flaw here. Let me paint you a picture. And, when you get to the end of this, you just might have a “holy crap” moment. Let’s say a parent has a child. Every morning, they sit this child in the most comfortable chair and turn on cartoons. Beside this chair is a side table and on this table, they put a large bowl of chocolate chip cookies. Every morning,…

“You’re one decision away from a better life”I love that sentiment. But here’s what I think people hear:“One day, you’re going to ‘win the lottery’ and never worry again”A better life requires more than 1 lucky choice. It requires a series of consistently better choices, made one at a time.You only need to get your next choice right to start a winning streak.But you need to be prepared to make the better choice more often than not, if you want a better future.For example, I love it when people make the choice to work with me in my program Lifestyle-180.…

“Better just polish this off, then it won’t tempt me” “Better finish this off so it doesn’t go to waste” I used to say this all the time … I even had a phrase “If it’s going to waste, might as well be MY waist” Yeah, guess how well that worked out for me. But, I know … the pain of wasting food is REAL. But, hang on a sec here … what’s the definition of waste? “In EXCESS of what is NEEDED” … This is what I mean when I talk about treating your body like a trash compactor.…

Oof, there’s a loaded question if there ever was one. On the one hand, you have people arguing that “fat people just need to stop eating so much” (anybody who says that is an idiot). On the other hand, you have people who will argue that “people can’t help it, so we have to just accept it as the new normal”. It comes from a place of well-meaning “compassion”, yet the message is laden with a sense of helpless victimhood. And like any argument, the truth lies somewhere in the middle. What we know from a factual standpoint is that…

Being an adult means having the freedom to eat junk and drink alcohol whenever the heck you want. Being an adult also means having the emotional maturity to recognize that if you were to eat junk and drink alcohol every time you felt like it, it would be highly destructive to your health. One key difference between toddlers and adults is the ability to regulate emotions. You might not be able to stop emotions from showing up, but you have the ability to choose your response. In saying that you have the ability, this doesn’t mean it’s an easy task.…

A Negative Outlook will never give you a Positive life. A lot of people think that in the future, somewhere, is a life free from problems, struggles and challenges. And I think this is precisely where a lot of negativity comes from: Resenting that life is hard, and that we’re faced with challenges daily. I think that some of this also comes from the fact that social media shows a highlight reel because, let’s be honest, moping about how life sucks isn’t going to garner a lot of likes. One exercise I practice a lot is re-framing. I don’t buy into…

Have you ever eaten an entire extra-large double cheese stuffed crust pizza, alone, in your car, in a parking lot? I have. How about an entire double chocolate bundt cake, alone, in your basement, while binge-watching episodes on Netflix? Yep. 76 wings in one sitting? Uh-huh.  Got the t-shirt, buffalo sauce stains and all. Why?  Why was I doing this? If you’ve ever struggled with some type of disordered eating, you’ve probably asked the same question. And part of what makes it so frustrating, is knowing that you’re doing something that you “shouldn’t“, yet seemingly not being able to stop…